
This article is sponsored by Cundall Manor School.
It is ranked in the top nine per cent of independent schools in the UK and is situated in an idyllic part of rural North Yorkshire.
Now, prospective families are being invited to explore Cundall Manor School as it opens its doors for two special events in February and March.
The open days will take place at the “friendly, supportive and caring” school, which offers provision for boys and girls from the age of two to 16.
The first will be held on the morning of Saturday, February 5, followed by another on Saturday, March 26.
Amanda Kirby, who has been the headteacher at the school for almost 10 years, said:
“We hold open days to invite prospective parents to the school with the opportunity to see the school facilities and to get a feel of the Cundall experience. It allows them to meet the pupils ask them questions but also talk to the teachers as well.”

Mrs Kirby said the events provided an opportunity for the school to get a feel for who the prospective families are and in return parents and children are able to inspect the facilities and chat with pupils and staff.
She said:
“Parents can get an insight into our school culture, the curriculum and the type of pupils we produce. It also allows parents to meet our fantastic senior leadership team and they can establish a relationship.”
In terms of what the school has to offer, including state-of-the-art facilities, Mrs Kirby said Cundall Manor is “proof that the world of Enid Blyton can be at one with the 21st century”.
She added:
“Seeing is believing. Rather than driving success we promote success on an individual basis. We are not afraid to push pupils out of their comfort zone, cultivating a ‘yes’ mentality which prepares children to embrace the world and to think and act independently and without inhibitions.
“We possess excellent grass pitches for rugby, football and cricket. We have a 4G astro turf that is used for hockey, netball, football and tennis. We also possess a 20-metre, four-lane swimming pool.
Located in a magnificent 28-acre site in the Vale of York, between Ripon and Thirsk, Cundall Manor School mainly attracts pupils from a 20-mile radius, including the Harrogate district.

Mrs Kirby said:
“We attract pupils from a Harrogate as we have an extensive bus routes and one of the routes goes through the town centre.”
The open days will see parents greeted by some of the school’s prefects, before being accompanied to a welcome tent.
They will then be taken on a tour of the whole school by a prefect and will be invited to ask questions about the school and life from a pupil perspective.
Mrs Kirby said:
“During their tour of school, they will visit our Wild Wood, this will showcase some of the extracurricular activities we offer such as axe throwing, fire building and much more.
“They will then go onto our school field, which is a magnificent 26-acre field containing rugby, football and cricket pitches.
“We also have a new 4G astro turf, which allows us to mainly play hockey, but we also use it for netball and tennis.”

At the end of the tour, parents will be taken back to the tent where they will have the opportunity to speak with Mrs Kirby and her deputies. They will also have the opportunity to talk to the school’s new headteacher, Christopher James-Roll, who starts at the school in September.
Mrs Kirby added:
“Open days give prospective parents the opportunity to see Cundall in ‘full-flow’. We are not just the sum of our stunning surroundings, enriching curriculum, and extra-curricular opportunities. Parents say they can tangibly feel the friendly and purposeful atmosphere when they meet our pupils and staff. It is always wonderful to see everyone engaged in learning activities.
“Pupils lead our tours, giving prospective families a real insight into what it is like to be a pupil at Cundall Manor School. Some of these pupils have been here since they were in nursery and have many wonderful anecdotes of their time at school.
“Chatting over refreshments after the tours allows prospective families to meet with our head, head of admissions and deputies, affording parents a relaxed environment to ask any questions as they arise.
“Families leave feeling they’ve had a snap-shot into life at Cundall Manor School, ready to make informed decisions about the next steps to joining our family community.”

To register for one of the school’s open days click here to fill out a contact form or call 01423 360200.
Harrogate district covid rate begins to rise againThe recent rapid decline of the Harrogate district’s covid rate of infection appears to have halted, with the rate beginning to nudge up again.
A total of 226 cases were confirmed in today’s government figures, taking the seven-day infection rate to 1,073 per 100,000 people.
This is slightly up on yesterday’s figure of 1,059 and remains above both the county and England averages of 974 and 992 respectively.
Central Harrogate is worst affected, with 127 infections in the last seven days. Harrogate East has had 123 cases while Harrogate West and Pannal has had 120,
It was also revealed today that a total of 106.735 booster or third jabs have been administered in the district.
From Thursday, venues and events will no longer be required by law to use the NHS covid pass and face coverings will no longer be required by law in any setting.
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TikTok famous: 4 videos featuring the Harrogate district’s people and places
After a Russian TikToker racked up a million views with a scenic video of Knaresborough and a clip went viral of Brimham Rocks staff kicking out a mobile DJ, the Harrogate district is becoming a regular feature on the popular social media platform.
Scrolling through an app like TikTok, where millions post videos of dance routines and comedy lip-sync clips, you wouldn’t necessarily expect to see the likes of Harrogate town centre, Knaresborough Castle or Fountains Abbey popping up on screen.
But more and more individuals, and more recently companies, are recognising how much the platform can boost your profile, with one small clip sometimes reaching millions of people from across the globe.
There is no denying that TikTok videos featuring the area are an effective way of showcasing what it has to offer, including places, people and businesses.

DJ Zach Sabri, who is better known as SUAT on TikTok recently went viral with this video filmed at Brimham Rocks.
Harrogate marketing agency Marketing Adventures uses the social media platform to help promote clients.
Creative director Brogan Huntington said:
“As a digital marketing agency with a young, innovative team, we have used TikTok for some time now.
“It is an incredible marketing tool. We use it for the majority of our clients especially in the property and food and beverage industries.
“It has taken some time for Harrogate businesses to become accustomed to the idea of using TikTok in order to promote their business online, as their perception has been that it is a younger audience. Although this is somewhat true, this video-based platform is a great way to build a brand and speak to your clients and your future clients.
“Video is one of our favourite tools to promote business and we have seen exceptional success through via sales videos have produced on social media.”
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Global hair and beauty brand Cloud Nine, which is based in Harrogate, started using TikTok in 2020 to promote its products.
Naomi Horan, social media and influencer manager, said:
“In 2020 and the year of lockdown, people looked to social media for a sense of release from their mundane work-from-home set up.
“TikTok proved pivotal in becoming both an escape and a source of inspiration, with everything from dance challenges and duets, to food recipes and every day hacks. This month, TikTok has reported over one billion active monthly users – you can no doubt expect you’ll find a percentage of your audience on this platform.
“For Cloud Nine, TikTok is going to become a crucial part of our 2022 plans to engage with our audiences in ways we have never done before.
“TikTok themselves say, ‘Don’t make ads, make TikToks’ – brands need to entertain their audience, build their awareness and in turn, they’ll reap the rewards.”
4 TikTok videos with more than 100k views featuring the Harrogate district’s people and places
Livharlandmusic – Harrogate busking
Liv Harland is from York, but can regularly be seen busking in Harrogate on her TikToks. In fact the singer, who has 1.5 million followers, had some of the biggest live stream moments of the year on the social media site, where she broadcasts herself busking. In 2021 she was fourth, fifth and seventh on the Top 10 list of the most watched live moments by artists on TikTok, alongside Ed Sheeran, Yungblud and Coldplay.
In this live TikTok, one of the many filmed in Harrogate, she clocked up a whopping 4.1 million views singing her version of Runaway by Aurora. In the video she notices a man in the background, who appears to have confused a loaf of bread with a mobile phone. We’ve all been there. It was one of her most viewed last year and features Cambridge Street.
https://www.tiktok.com/@livharlandmusic/video/6960310322603330821?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id7033698343524288005
Amealmeal – Harrogate accent
In this Tiktok video, which clocked up 520,000 views, Mila, a student nurse from Harrogate, has clearly been having difficulty getting others to understand why she doesn’t have a broad Yorkshire accent. All down to how well spoken we are in this town of course! The struggle is real.
https://www.tiktok.com/@amealmeal/video/7023100067812773125?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id7033698343524288005
Beauty.spectrum – Visit to Knaresborough and Harrogate
OK, so this one hasn’t quite hit the 100k mark at 20.6k, however this TikTok of a day trip to Knaresborough was also featured on YouTuber Molly Thompson’s weekly vlog back in September, which also clocked up thousands of views. Molly has 130k subscribers to her YouTube channel.
In the vlog Molly, from Beverley, talks about how it has recently become popular for people to go to the town and take photos on the boats while rowing underneath the viaduct. She heads to Knaresborough with her friend for an “Instagram day” — she also has 64.7k followers on Instagram — and films her trip for Youtube and TikTok.
The TikTok video features Knaresborough Castle, the riverside and of course the boats and viaduct. She then heads to Harrogate and buys some donuts from Doe Bakehouse. Filmed on a sunny day last September, Knaresborough certainly needs no filter and looks stunning as always.
https://www.tiktok.com/@beauty.spectrum/video/6873833828159425794?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id7033698343524288005
flyingscotsgirl – Filming locations for The Witcher at Fountains Abbey and Malhamdale
Cat Thomson’s tours around Yorkshire’s villages, towns and countryside have been a big hit on TikTok. She saw a huge spike in her number of followers after lockdown in 2020, thanks to more people looking for places to stay in the UK.
Now living in Leeds, she regularly visits North Yorkshire and is a big fan of Fountains Abbey, near Ripon.
This video features a list of filming locations for season two of Netflix hit show, The Witcher, starring Henry Cavill. It includes Fountains Abbey, Plumpton Rocks near Harrogate, Goredale Scar and Janet’s Foss waterfalls in Malhamdale.
https://www.tiktok.com/@flyingscotsgirl/video/6901395697682107650?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id7033698343524288005
- Are you a TikToker from the Harrogate district who has gone viral? Send your videos to nina@thestrayferret.co.uk

The director of public health for North Yorkshire says she is “cautiously optimistic” that the county has seen the worst of the Omicron wave as covid infections continue to fall.
Louise Wallace told a meeting of North Yorkshire’s Outbreak Management Advisory Board today that the latest figures showed a “much better picture” with a 43% drop in the county’s weekly infection rate which now stands at 1,048 cases per 100,000 people.
Latest figures for the Harrogate District show that the rate has fallen to 1,136 per 100,000 people.
However, Ms Wallace said infections were still higher than previous months and that this was putting pressure on care homes, hospitals and schools.
She said:
“We are now seeing a decline in some of the numbers and I’m really hopeful that they are heading in the right direction.
“I’m cautiously optimistic that we are turning the tide, but we still do have 854 daily cases.
“And of course we have had changes to testing arrangements over the last few weeks which may be having an impact on some of the data.”
Latest figures show there have been seven covid-related deaths in North Yorkshire in the last week – fewer than this time last year when the county was averaging five deaths each day.
NHS staff told today’s meeting that despite this improving picture, many patients were still being hospitalised with the virus.
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They also expressed concerns that fewer people are now testing for covid and that this was “skewering” the true rates of infections and estimates on how many more patients could need hospital treatment.
This comes as the self-isolation period for people who test positive has been cut to five full days in England.
From today, people will be able to leave isolation after negative lateral flow tests on days five and six in a move to ease pressure on staffing shortages across the private and public sectors.
This was announced last week by the government which is reportedly seeing “encouraging” signs that the Plan B restrictions in England could be removed after a review on January 26.
The current restrictions include guidance to work from home, the widespread use of face coverings and NHS Covid passes for some events.
Meanwhile, teenagers aged 16 and 17 can now book their booster vaccines online from today. The top-up jabs are also being made available to clinically vulnerable 12 to 15 year olds.
Lack of affordable housing ‘killing’ villages in North YorkshireFormer Liberal Democrat leader Tim Farron has said second homes and holiday lets are “killing” rural communities in places such as North Yorkshire.
Mr Farron told a debate in Parliament last week that more than a quarter of the housing stock in the Yorkshire Dales was not lived in.
He added the majority of properties in some towns and villages were empty most of the year.
Mr Farron, whose constituency of Westmorland and Lonsdale in Cumbria is severely affected by second homes, called for action to “shift the dial and save the dales and other rural communities”.
He said:
“Excessive second home ownership is a colossal problem in our communities.
“The collapse of affordable, available housing for local communities is killing towns and villages in Cornwall, Northumberland, Shropshire, Devon, Somerset, North Yorkshire, the highlands of Scotland and rural Wales, as well as in my home of Cumbria.
Mr Farron accused the government of “inexcusable inaction to save our communities” and outlines a seven-point action plan.
The measures included making second homes and holiday lets new and separate categories of planning use so councils and national parks could limit the number of them in each town and village, giving councils the power to increase council tax by up to 100% on second homes in the worst-affected communities and ensuring Airbnb properties “meet the same standards as any other rental”.
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Housing minister Christopher Pincher said rural communities faced “some very specific challenges”, which was why the government had changed the tax system.
“Since 2013, local authorities have been able to levy 100% of council tax on second homes, where the people who own them do not necessarily use the local services that they might, but through the council tax have to contribute to them; 96% of local authorities make use of that opportunity.”
He added changes had been made to stamp duty to help first-time buyers and a surcharge had been introduced for foreign purchasers of property.
Mr Pincher added:
‘God help us!’ — fears over need for £31m to fund North Yorks fire service“This issue is also why we have reformed the planning system. It is opaque, slow, and is not predictable. That does not help small and medium-sized enterprises—often the builders who build different types of homes for different tenures in the places that the big builders do not want.
“We need a system that will help those SMEs and is far more engaging.
“We also want, as a reform to be introduced soon, a new infrastructure levy to replace section 106, which tends to favour the bigger developers that can afford the bigger batteries of lawyers.”
Concerns have been raised after it was revealed North Yorkshire Fire and Rescue Service could be forced to borrow up to £31 million to fund new equipment after the government abolished its grant.
Zoe Metcalfe, a Conservative who was elected North Yorkshire Police, Fire and Crime Commissioner in November, described the funding settlement for the fire service as “very unfair” and pledged to lobby government for more support.
The service is currently running a deficit of £1 million and will require capital funding to pay for vehicles, maintenance of property and fire kit.
At a meeting today of the North Yorkshire Police, Fire and Crime Panel, the commissioner’s office set out provisional plans for increasing the precept paid by council tax payers to fund both police and fire services.
Michael Porter, director of finance at the commissioner’s office, told the meeting that the fire precept can only be increased by 1.99% — which would amount to £1.46 per week — because it is not one of the eight lowest charging services in the country.
He added that there will be no capital grant from government, leaving the service requiring £31.1 million to fund its projects over the next five years.
Mr Porter said:
“The problem with this, which we alluded to earlier, is that there is no capital grant from a fire perspective.
“Almost the entirety of that £31 million would need to be borrowed. Borrowing would need to be around about £25 to £26 million to be able to fund that type of level of investment.
“We will probably get to a point where we have to make some really difficult choices around whether or not we can continue to do something or even be able to do something of this nature.”
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Martin Walker, a co-opted member of the panel, said he was “horrified” by the financial situation the service was in.
He said:
“I have to say that I’m horrified, if that’s not too strong a word, about where the fire service is going to be.
“It’s in desperate need of capital injection and renewing stations, renewing fire engines and renewing all sorts of infrastructure.
“You’re talking about borrowing and having to borrow £30 million. I hesitate to say this, but god help us.
“The fire service is fighting so hard to provide the service that the public need and yet you’re telling us as a panel that it’s going to get worse, then it will get worse and after that it will get worse.”
Ms Metcalfe sought to reassure the panel and said she was “lobbying government and MPs very hard” over funding for the fire service, which she described as unfair.
She said:
“I am questioning the rationale about how they have come to deciding where we are on that chart [precept level], it does seem very unfair.
“I’m fighting very hard for a fairer funding formula for North Yorkshire Fire and Rescue Service.”
Meanwhile, Mr Porter added that there was “strong support” from the public for the precept level to be increased higher than 1.99%.
The commissioner’s office will set its budget for the police and fire service in February.
Covid cases fall in Harrogate district after yesterday’s daily record surgeA total of 404 infections have been recorded in the Harrogate district today — down on yesterday’s daily record figure of 493.
However, the district’s seven-day average rate of infection has risen from 1,139 and now stands at 1,329 per 100,000 people.
North Yorkshire’s rate is 1,269 and the England rate is 1,508.
Harrogate West and Pannal Ash remains the worst hit area, with 163 cases in the last seven days.
The number of people who have received a third or booster vaccine in the district stands at 101.983. A total of 364,100 vaccines have been administered.
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In this article, which is part of a series on the 15 stories in the Harrogate district that shaped 2021, we look at the seismic decision to scrap Harrogate Borough Council and North Yorkshire County Council as part of plans to create a new super-council for North Yorkshire.
The landscape of local government and politics in the Harrogate district is set for its biggest shake-up in 50 years.
The two-tier system, which has seen North Yorkshire County Council and Harrogate Borough Council provide different services, is to be replaced by a single-tier system, with one super-council in charge of England’s largest county.
North Yorkshire had avoided Westminster’s devolution agenda over the last 10 years.
Neighbouring Teeside and West Yorkshire have completed the transition, and now have their own mayors.
Now the process is well and truly underway in North Yorkshire.
Seismic decision
When senior county councillors confirmed they were in discussions with ministers over a devolution deal, the news probably perked the ears of only those political enthusiasts interested in the minutia of local politics.
But the consequences will be considerable, even if the process has been slow and cumbersome so far.
The intricacies of a council officer submitting a list of “asks” and a government minister sending a letter back bullet pointing requirements to proceed in negotiations is not a gripping political tale.
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Councils were responding to what then local government minister, Simon Clark, asked them to do in July 2020. He said that in order for North Yorkshire to get any power and control back from Whitehall, it would have to scrap its two-tier council system.
In other words, Harrogate Borough Council, North Yorkshire County Council and the remaining district authorities would no longer exist.
It was a seismic decision and one which will change the scope of politics in the county.
A super council
For some, the creation of one council for North Yorkshire will be little more than another logo on their council tax bill and a different council collecting bins on a morning.
Others will see a change in the political make-up of the county and an end to the more parochial way that local government is performed at the moment.
We don’t know the full list of political figures will be standing for the unitary council in May but there will be far fewer councillors and jostling for positions has begun.
Harrogate Borough Council leader Richard Cooper has said he won’t be standing.
Whoever is elected, it will be a new political beginning for the Harrogate district, albeit one that could well be run more remotely from Northallerton rather than from the Civic Centre at Knapping Mount, which Harrogate Borough Council moved into four years ago.
Huge decisions, such as the future of Harrogate Convention Centre, and responsibility for the Stray, will be taken by a different senior councillors from 2023.
When that first council tax bill lands on doormats across the Harrogate district in March 2024, it will be headed by a different name — but those making the decisions may no longer live in the district.
North Yorkshire is week behind London’s covid surge, health official warnsNorth Yorkshire is a “week or so” behind London’s surge in covid infections and hospitalisations, a health official has warned.
Dr Victoria Turner, public health consultant at North Yorkshire County Council, told a meeting of the county’s Outbreak Management Advisory Board that the capital remained at the epicentre of the Omicron wave and there were still a “relatively small number” of cases in North Yorkshire.
But she added infections were likely to rise and that hospitalisations would follow as the true impact of the new variant is felt over the New Year.
She said:
“The level of hospitalisations we are seeing at the moment are predominantly reflecting where we were with the Delta variant a couple of weeks ago.
“But it is safe to say Omicron is going to be the dominant variant in North Yorkshire.”
The warning comes as early studies by researchers at the Imperial College London have found the Omicron variant may cause milder illness than Delta.
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Dr Turner said while the findings were encouraging, it was still early data and that the larger number of infections from Omicron meant a rise in hospitalisations – similar to what is being seen in London – should be expected.
She said:
“It is still not 100% certain how severe Omicron is compared to Delta and other previous variants.
“And there still remains the same lag time between becoming infected and hospitalised, so over the next week or two we are likely to see hospitalisations increase as the Omicron wave is reflected in the figures.
“There is then usually a week to two weeks lag between hospitalisations and deaths.”
13 covid patients in Harrogate hospital
Hospitalisations are the key figures which government ministers are now monitoring as they consider further restrictions to slow the spread of the virus and prevent the NHS from being overwhelmed.
Health Secretary Sajid Javid has said no further measures are needed at present as he also urged people to be cautious over Christmas.
The meeting of the North Yorkshire Outbreak Management Advisory Board heard there are currently 94 covid patients in the county’s hospitals, including 39 in South Tees, 26 in York, 16 in Scarborough and 13 in Harrogate.
Sue Peckitt, chief nurse at the NHS North Yorkshire Clinical Commissioning Group, described the situation as “fairly stable” but added health services were still feeling the strain from winter pressures.
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She also said a large number of the covid patients currently receiving treatment were over 65s and that most of those in intensive care were unvaccinated or had underlying health conditions.
She said:
“There are currently 94 inpatients across the North Yorkshire bed base, 10 of which are in intensive care.
“This is a fairly stable picture and we are preparing for any influx should we need to step up additional beds over Christmas and New Year.
“Omicron is coming into North Yorkshire and we anticipate that we may see more hospitalisations, but we are waiting to see what the trend is showing in other parts of the country.”
Fewer people at vaccine sites
Mrs Peckitt also said while the vaccination rollout was going “exceptionally well”, officials had noted a drop in attendance at vaccine sites in recent days.
She said this is thought to be due to patients concerned about feeling unwell with vaccine side effects over the festive period.
According to UK Health Security Agency figures, more than 370,060 people across North Yorkshire have now had their booster vaccine.
This represents around 64% of the county’s population.
Meanwhile, Selby has the highest weekly infection rate in the county with 716 cases per 100,000 people. This is followed by Harrogate at 643, Craven 617, Ryedale 594, Hambleton 545, Richmondshire 417 and Scarborough 352.
Handling Christmas after divorce: A Harrogate dad’s storyFamily breakdown is never easy, but Christmas can be a particularly distressing time for separated parents and their children.
There is an unrealistic expectation that the festive period should be be perfect, not helped by increasing pressure caused by social media.
This often leads to feelings of anger, frustration and upset when that “perfect” family Christmas can’t be made into a reality.
Arguments can start over where the children will be on Christmas Day. There can also be disagreements about whether new partners should be spending time with the children at Christmas, as well as issues with money.
But it doesn’t always have to be difficult.
Harrogate dad Alex separated from his wife in 2010, when his daughter was three-years-old.
Tough
He described how the first two Christmases apart were a struggle, but then gradually improved in future years thanks to good communication.
He said:
“In that first year it was all quite recent and a little raw. Christmas morning was spent separately at our respective parents, and my daughter was with her mum.
“We then met in a neutral venue, a pub in a rural village, and had a drink and I got to spend some time with my daughter.
“That first year was incredibly tough and getting in the car and driving away from her later in the afternoon was particularly hard.
“The following year my daughter spent the morning with my ex-wife, and then came to my house. It was a little too upsetting for all parties, particularly for my daughter as she just wanted to play with her new things.”
However, as a result, they both agreed that they would then take it in turns each year, which he says has worked out better for everyone ever since.
He said:
“When she is not with us, we have a separate faux Christmas Day and meal on another day as near to the big day as we can, but there is no substitute to having her with you on the day itself.”
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Alex continues to have a good relationship with his ex-wife and says this makes it easier when it comes to Christmas festivities.
He said:
“I think when you have children, the focus of the day itself changes anyway, and you realise that the enjoyment comes from experiencing it through their eyes.
“Once both parties accept that, it’s easy to keep it amicable as you will do everything you can to make it special for the children involved.
“As with every aspect of co-parenting, communication is the key, and if you can keep in touch and keep it friendly (sometimes through gritted teeth), then it makes everything so much better for you and your children.
“I genuinely think my daughter has a wonderful time at Christmas. She gets spoiled by both sides of her family and gets to have two Christmas Days every year.”
Advice
Stephen Root, director of Berwins Solicitors, based in Harrogate, has shared his advice on arrangements for children over the Christmas period.
He said:
- Remember it is not about you spending time with your children, but your children spending time with you and the other parent.
- Try and approach it from your children’s point of view. Will they be happier seeing both of you on Christmas Day, even if that means moving from house-to-house? Or are they better off in one place, perhaps, alternating Christmas Day and Boxing Day between you?
- Try and find an arrangement that suits your family and can be used from year-to-year, perhaps alternating Christmas and the New Year holiday periods between you.
- Try and reach an agreement as early as possible. If everyone knows what the arrangements are there are less likely to be arguments. If there are issues, then the earlier you have begun discussions the more time you have to resolve them.
- If the children are with you all day Christmas Day, do make time for them to speak with the other parent during the day. In most cases children will want to at least speak to the other parent during the festivities.
- Don’t compete with each other. Try and discuss what presents you are getting – consider still buying jointly if you can – and don’t expect your children to eat two Christmas dinners.
